Wednesday, March 2, 2011

"The friendship that can cease has never been real" - Saint Jerome

In light of all of the craziness going on this week, I wanted to do a light, fluffy post. However, I found this quote and, honestly, I could not stop thinking about it.

Is it true then? That if a friendship is over, it was never really a friendship to begin with? How could that possibly be? So, the moments, photos, stories, that I've shared with people I may not be in touch with, those are just people; random acquaintances who happened to have the same experience as me? I am disturbed by the thought.

I have had many friendships, great and small, that somehow, whether over time or situation, have dissolved. And while this is tragic in its own way, it is life, and it happens. Yet, regardless of the current state, I still consider it friendship. There existed a mutual feeling of good company and relatability (which is apparently not a word? Dictionary, get on it!) that I consider the very core of a friendship between two people.

Therefore, Saint Jerome, I think this is a pessimistic view of the human spirit. I mean, why squash the past just because it isn't in the present? Especially, since you never know what will come in the future. With the ease of communication through fifty-seven million (made-up number) social networking arenas,  rekindling a friendship is as easy as the click of a button. Or a poke. What's up Facebook.

So, dear readers, what do you think? Is the end of a friendship a sign that it was never a real friendship to begin with? I'm going back to my roots and asking, what's your interpretation?

1 comment:

  1. I agree with St. Jerome, but I interpreted the quote differently.
    I think it's relevant that St. Jerome uses the words "can cease" instead of the word "ceases" in the sentence.
    I don't believe St. Jerome is talking about the people we lose touch with over time.
    Have you ever been in a friendship that feels like it might implode without a moment's notice? Ever had a frenemy?
    In a volatile friendship, there's a lurking sense that the relationship might go from great to horrific in an instant.
    If you're constantly second-guessing a friendship, it probably isn't real.
    That's my 2 cents. :)